We live in the world of constant interaction.
My life consists of 24/7 unstoppable interaction experience; meeting new people, going on events, communication over social media and, finally, writing the blog which is also a sort of interaction. I have unpublished blog that I keep for myself for now..it is also interaction…with myself.
Realisation of a big influence of all these social aspects of my life made me become very protective of my personal space. It is that my own world that I keep to myself and not willing to share with anyone.
You say it sounds like another selfish [loud] thought from me.
Depends how you look at it.
When you want to stay alone for some time to recharge yourself, shuffle some of your thoughts, go on a long walk and do not really worry to reply on numerous messages; it is the way to come back to people you love and respect, to the rest of the society refreshed, happy and spread your energy and positivity on them. Is it that selfish?
You shall understand the importance of your own space.
This is your mental wellbeing. Do not forget that you are the one in charge of it, not the society.
People say that your lifestyle and behaviour habits you had when you were a child make the final decision on how you are going to behave when you have grown up. I can see the link here between protection of my own space and the way I was raised.
When I was little, my family made a big effort to protect me from anything that can hurt me, sometimes not even given me an opportunity to make my own mistakes. However, you cannot avoid mistakes and live in a protected bubble. One day you come out and explore the world, so I did it at the end of my teenage life.
I was controlled – of course, how can you assist your child to avoid mistakes without controlling their actions? – Typical Russian system of raising the kids.
Therefore, one day I invented wings and flew away. I protect my social freedom from that moment.
I think it was good timing with everything though. I can see how some of my high school friends who were giving a lot of freedom to explore the world when they were little made them forget to explore themselves. I was not permitted to do many things I wanted to do, and explore something that other teens could do. Therefore, I had enough time to explore myself until I turned 18.
However, there is one thing that I got out of my childhood experience. I won’t let anyone to enter my personal space without my own permission. Only people who respect it can surround me.